Breakup Survival Guide

Breakup Survival Guide


By far the one of the most heart breaking situation a person can be is the pain of breaking – up. It is never easy and sometimes you would even doubt yourself if you’re still be capable of loving someone that is if your relationship is something that is serious. But if the relationship you have had is something that is more than friends and not close enough to serious relationship, hhmm..well I don’t see hardships in breaking up. Anyway, for those who are experiencing the pain of a break-up, here’s a 3-DaySurvival Tips for you:

Day 1

1. After your last conversation ended last night, and had the relationship really put into an end, the first thing you do after you wake up is pray. Pray to God that you’ll be able to get by and be strong enough to go through the pain.

2. Cry. It’s really normal to cry dear, so let it out. Do not double jeopardize yourself by pretending to be okay when deep inside you’re hurting.

3. Talk to people you can confide with. Aside from they want to comfort you, they would want to listen what happened. These people for sure are one of the witnesses of your relationship, so they would be more than willing to listen to you.

4. If you want to hang out then go, if you want to sober alone then let it be. It’s your preference on how to deal with it on the first day. But at least do something that’ll make you forget somehow of the pain.

5. Sleep. Well, one of our sweetest escapes from all our anxieties, fears and pain is sleeping. I’ve been there, and all I did was to sleep almost the whole day.

Day 2

1. The pain still lingers on, right? Early it may seem but try to find some good stuff you can do to divert your attention. Do things your sort of hesitant to do.

2. On my second day, I was able to get by with the pain. Though it’s still there, but it somehow lessened. Why? I did some realizations on the first day. He’s not meant for me, why settle for someone who can’t keep up with me? Also, my mom told me that I was able to live 19 years of my life (I was 21 then) without him why live as though I lost everything? So what you have to do is to live your life before you two had become an item.

3. Rejuvenate yourself. I had some haircut when I was broke. Women would always turn to salons if they have problems related to the heart. According to some girls I know who were broke as well, the best revenge you can give to your ex is to BE BEAUTIFUL!

4. Do something that’ll satisfy you. Anything, be it a food, shopping, drinking or partying. Anything that’ll make you realizethat there’s life after a heart break.

5. Remove the things that will remind you of him/her temporarily and that includes avoid communicating with him/her. It’s not bitterness, because you’ll just have to do it in the meantime your hurt. If you want to be reminded of him/her again you can show it after you already had moved on or you’re ready to face him/her and be friends well then let time heal all the wounds first so there’d be no bitterness and blaming.

Day 3

1. Surround yourself with happy people. When you’re happy there’d be a little room for your sadness. You’ll soon realize that the pain you’ve been feeling for the last two days is slowly fading.

2. Constantly keep yourself busy – in a healthy way. If you are working, do not let a single thought pre-occupy you and the pain. After work, go out with friends or go to the gym. It’s not an everyday habit, but at least do something to divert..always divert dear.

3. Be reunited with your family. When we are in a relationship, we sometimes forget to be with the very people who have been with us since we were born. Hang out with them, they are the first people who would understand you and will be beside you all the time with or without you telling them to do so.

4. If the pain still lingers, give yourself a retreat. Do soul searching if it pleases you.


There you go. I guess the only key start to moving on is to Divert. Others may think that memories would flash back, though no matter how hard you try to keep yourself busy. Well, the flashbacks are the reasons why we constantly get hurt. I am not telling you to suppress, just divert. Eventually you will get used to the flashbacks and the hurt, that you’ll realize that you are no longer hurting after all. It’s just a matter of determination to move on.

Sure it is hard, but keep your faith in God. You may probably think that we only remember God when we are in a hard situation, God puts up into trials to remind us that we are only humans and there’s no one can lift us up other than Him and yourself. I’ve proven it a hundred times, and the more I cry unto him, the closer I get to God, the smaller my problems are.

HOW TO KNOW IF HE’S/SHE’S THE ONE

HOW TO KNOW IF HE’S/SHE’S THE ONE

When we were younger, we were made to believe fairy tale endings, “happy ever after”. When we grow older we fancied on romantic movies and novels. Then we have to snap back to reality. Those fancy things are just written by the same hopeless romantic writers like we all do. We do all search for a partner whom we can be with for the rest of our lives, whom we can share happiness and sadness, bitterness and success. In our quest for a great love story, we may stumble upon few people who for once, we thought could be the “one”, and yet end up just like any other passerby.

I know a couple who has just got married and just by merely looking at them together you can already tell that they were meant to be. I mean, their differences made it compatible that’s why they ended up marrying each other.

And then this other couple who have been together for like ten years and broke up! Imagining the years they were together with all the hardships they went through are now shattered up by just a single snap.

Now, the question is, how can we discern that the person we are having a relationship to, is the one you want to spend the rest your life with?

1.      Your relationship is healthy. There are relationships that are too monotonous, others are overly achieving and some are competitive. A healthy relationship is when both partners are supporters of each other. When both of you understands and heeds each other’s needs, that there’s no words to be spoken because one can sense that there is something wrong.

2.      He/She listens to you. The relationship is not one-sided. The other party listens while the other one is talking and vice versa.

3.      He/She respects you. Respect begets Trust and Love. Someone who respects you as a partner and as an individual is someone you can be assured of a happy marriage.

4.      He/She doesn’t have to put his/her best foot forward. A person who shows you his/her real self is someone you can entrust your life into, without worrying that the marriage you thought would be magical might turn out into a nightmare.

5.      He is respectful to his mother/ She is obedient to her parents. If you want to know the real attitude of your soon to be partner, observe how he/she behaves when he/she is with his/her family. People are more real when they are at their own homes.

6.      He/She is not controlling you. Do not settle for someone who wants to take control of your life. Always remember that you are born with free will, and no one can take that right from you.

7.      He/She is your bestfriend. The best relationships are those pillared in friendship. Intimacy will soon fade away as you grow older, and the only thing that’ll be left is your friendship. So be sure that this person is the one you can always confide secrets with and that you’re comfortable with him/her.

8.      You see your life with him/her years from now. There is nothing more sweetly and promising than seeing a life with the one you truly love, so if that’s what you see your life to be, then go for it.

What do girls want in a relationship

What Do Girls Want In A Relationship?

Being in a relationship is a good thing, right? Loving someone and be loved in return is probably one of the best feelings in this world and is certainly priceless. Both man and woman have their own responsibilities to keep the relationship going, amidst trials. Trials are meant to make the relationship strong, and it tests how each party could hold on to the feeling. During these trials you can assess yourself how far you can go with the person you are with.

In the beginning, before a relationship could ever be formed, boys have the conscientiousness to woe the girl he likes. It is during this time that boys are being assessed on how consistent and truthful he is to the girl. When a relationship is already formed, both parties should carry on the relationship together. It is neither the girl alone nor the boy alone to handle it. So for you guys, here are some tips for you to know and understand to keep your relationship going.

1. Be Consistent. Consistency is one of the girls look for in a relationship, she fell for the efforts you have made to win her, be the same when you already have her, don’t be too complacent. Do not change just because she already said “yes” to you. Instead, do more than what you did while you’re still courting her.

2. Be Faithful. Being faithful is like fulfilling a promise. Girls are more likely to be clingy to every word a boy utters, so be very careful when you utter promises, because it’s a sure that girls would hold on to this.

3. Be Honest. There is no better way to start a good relationship than being honest with each other. Be honest with everything that you do for her. In honesty, you will gain her trust.

4. Make her feel special often. A long term relationship may turn out to be monotonous and can be a bit boring. Put up a little spark by doing surprises and or gift-giving, girls always love sweet surprises.

5. Respect her. Respect her decisions, respect whatever she says. Give her time to utter words, you might dislike and take it (if it’s your fault). Respect her as a woman, like respecting your own mother.

6. Be sensitive to her feelings. Girls are highly emotional. They can be moody very often for a variety of reasons. Nevertheless, you need not to pacify her all the time. Just be sensitive. Know when she’s mad, determine when she’s not in the mood, and make her laugh if there’s a chance, listen to her when she needs it. Non-verbal communications of girls are more common, so be keen enough to determine it. One is silence, when she’s silent than usual, it’s better that you ask her why, all she wanted is a guy who knows her needs without being told.

7. Be supportive. Do not antagonize, just because what she wanted is against yours. Though you are in a relationship, always remember you two are still separate individuals and have different lives, so be supportive with whatever she indulges herself into.

8. Be her Best friend at times. It is healthy for a relationship to treat each other as friends as well, not just sweet lovers. Keep her secrets, if she tells you. Girls are gossipy so it’s sort of sweet for a guy to talk to her like one of her girl friends.

9. Create memories with her. Do extraordinary things that would make memorable moments. It would probably be the sweetest for a guy to be generous and full of surprises.

10. Be proud that you have her. It is endearing to have a guy that is not only happy because he has her but is also proud that he’s his girl. Let her meet, greet and bond with your family and friends.

Relationships are not carried only by the boys alone, because it is a shared task. However, there are a lot of instances where boys neglect their girls because they already feel secured of the relationship. Girls must be treated like jewels, just like the song of James Ingram, “Find One Hundred Ways”.